lib: Return an error from operations that require an upgrade

lib: Return an error from operations that require an upgrade

Previously, there was no protection against a caller invoking an
operation on an old database version that would effectively corrupt
the database by treating it like a newer version.

According to notmuch.h, any caller that opens the database in
read/write mode is supposed to check if the database needs upgrading
and perform an upgrade if it does.  This would protect against this,
but nobody (even the CLI) actually does this.

However, with features, it's easy to protect against incompatible
operations on a fine-grained basis.  This lightweight change allows
callers to safely operate on old database versions, while preventing
specific operations that would corrupt the database with an
informative error message.